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How to Talk to Girls at a Party

Editor January 4, 2013 CULTURE No Comments

How to Talk to Girls at a Party

LIFESTYLE | DATING 

talking to girls How to Talk to Girls at a Party

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Look at the brunette over there.  Everyone is gathered around her.  She must be a very interesting person.  She’s not that pretty and her dress isn’t anything special.  What does she have that you don’t?”  You may have asked yourself these questions and more as you wonder why she seems to be the hit of the party while you just want to go home, put on your pajamas and watch television.

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Many people are shy, reserved, or just plain uncomfortable talking to other people.  It doesn’t have to be that way.  You, too, can converse easily and be interesting by following a few rules.

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DO:

  1. Be the first person to say hello.  Smile, offer a handshake and say, “Hi, my name is…..nice to meet you.”  Think it’s impossible?  It’s not.  Have you ever thought that maybe other people feel exactly the same way you do about get-togethers?
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  2. Smile – it’s the number one way to meet people.  Who can resist a friendly face?  Most people will be attracted to your pearly whites flashing them a genuine greeting.
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  3. Give a genuine compliment such as “Your haircut is great.  Could you recommend a good salon?”  This softens the introduction and gives both of you a topic of conversation to begin.
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  4. Find a common ground – something you both like.  It could be a type of wine, movie, television program, or even a color, friend, or book you’ve just read.  Tread lightly here as you do the “dance” and find out what interests the other person.  Then you can proceed.  Once you have found an opening it’s easy to talk.  Of course, maybe you aren’t really interested in making friends with this particular person, but you’ll know it within the first few minutes of conversation.  If communication lags and you are feeling uncomfortable, excuse yourself to the food table or restroom.  Once you’ve been idle for a minute or two find someone else to meet.

 

DON’T:

  1. Talk about politics or religion. Never do this when meeting someone for the first time as both are a big turn-off. You could find yourself embroiled in a nasty dispute over belief systems and that’s not what you are trying to accomplish here.
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  2. Be unnatural. Watch your body language. Keep it spontaneous by not crossing your arms or acting stiff.
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  3. Be a “Chatty Cathy.” Be a good listener too. Conversation is give and take. Let the other person say something too. Watch your nerves here (some people get started talking and can’t stop because they’re nervous).
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  4. Be overenthusiastic or put on. If you’re phony others will know it. Don’t be syrupy, give compliments you don’t mean or spout gushy words. They won’t work. People will leave in droves just to get away from you.
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  5. Start rattling on about yourself just yet. Get to know the other person first.
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  6. Give out too much personal information. You don’t know whom this new person is that you’ve just met and you may not want them to ultimately know that much about your life.  If it’s an office party you want to keep things very professional.  You never know when things might come back to haunt you.  But enjoy yourself by keeping the conversation light and fun.


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So, to summarize, look your best, exude confidence and be the first to say hello.  Act natural and the rest will take care of itself.  Remember, the other person may be quaking in their shoes too.  The trick is not to let them know you feel the same way.      

 

 

 

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