First Date Do’s & Don’ts
by Chantel Templeman
Whether you just got out of a serious relationship or you’ve been on the market longer than you wanted, nobody ever knows what to expect on a first date. They can either be full of excitement or full of boredom depending on how you go about it. One comment can completely terminate all the potential you saw in them. You might not be able to control whether he shows up with a rose in hand or if she ends up confessing her dying love for cats but you can take the right steps to show up shining your brightest.
1. DON’T get ahead of yourself.
That’s right ladies… I’m talking to YOU! It’s in our nature to want that fairytale love and have high hopes that this guy will be the one to give you your “last first kiss”, but it’s important to stay realistic. If your expectations are kept in check, then there’s a better chance a good first date will come of it and a bad one will be no biggie.
2. DO put the phone away
I know it’s hard for some to stop talking, texting or better yet facebooking on their phone for no more than an hour. Especially people in Los Angeles. However, it’s not only rude but it also sends the message that you’re bored and uninterested leaving your date feeling nothing but insecure and upset. Put that phone away.
3. DO simmer down on the liquor
Choose wisely. There is no need to be taking shot after shot. The key to your first date is to actually remember it, not show that you swear like a sailor after a shot of tequila. Keep it light and classy with a glass or two of wine, but no more.
4. DON’T turn this into a therapy session
You can kiss your second date goodbye if you end up venting about your past relationships. You’ll seem either heartless, bitter or still hung up. This includes every ex, your friend-with-benefits, or the entire string of people you’ve ever gone on a date with.
5. DO give a confirmation call
This is a biggie in cities where flakes abound. It takes 3 small minutes to prevent and misunderstandings or miscommunications. That quick call will relieve any worries that you’ll be stood up and it will show how much you’re looking forward to meeting your date.
these are all nice tips, but the real question is, should you sleep with the person after the first date?
Please… Please….. Please…. Never sleep with the after the 1st date. Yet alone the 2nd. I advise my sister and girl friends all the time never to let temptation win. Even as a beautiful woman myself, I get tempted and I feel certain sparks if/when I’m on an amazing date with an amazing man, but from past experiences…….after giving in to the temptation, I failed. Though he may call or text you again, he starts to fade from your life. We all make mistakes and sometimes the best way to understand and learn….is to make our own mistakes. If you want nothing more from the guy because something is missing…. But he’s sexy and you’re comfortable with sleeping with the guy, by all means…..just wear protection and be safe. Never forget …. A man likes his chase, and ladies….there’s nothing sexier than a man chasing you because he’s tempted to know more about you!!!!